I recently discovered I walk behind La Deb when we go someplace together. I am not sure when that happened, when I naturally took the subordinant role. I know that I did that with Ya Vez but it didn't seem wrong at that time. It felt more as though I needed some translator or for her to serve as my transition into some social setting.
Worse is La Deb says that if she walks slower to let me catch up that then I walk slower too to stay in the same position. Well, that's something I'm working on removing now.